Can we talk for a sec?

You guys. It's seriously time to stop.Just stop.
Two different sites (one good, one bad-both "anonymous") have popped up and after some browsing, I realized they kind of began because of all of the negativity in blogland.
You people do realize that it's a BLOG right? It's the internet and you still have real lives outside of it right?! Don't get me wrong, my blog is like a child to me. I love it, I do but it's more of a hobby than anything. I've met some AMAZING people through blogging and I'm beyond grateful that I know them but my life does NOT revolve around a blog.


I mean it's gotten to the point that I'm hesitant to even tweet someone for fear of getting jumped by someone else for being "friends" with the first and vice versa. Do you get how ridiculous that is?! I truly just don't even want to put myself out there or try to interact with people because I don't want someone to post screen shots of me saying "Hi" to someone. RIDICULOUS!

I've avoided reading a lot of blogs because I just don't want to after reading some mean tweet they wrote. I've stepped back from twitter because every time I have a few seconds to spare lately it seems that twitter is just full of negatives whining and complaining about themselves or how someone was mean to them.

How you handle a situation only defines YOU. When I read how you're handling it, I don't think "oh I totally agree. That bia******* be cray cray". I think "dude. you should've just kept your mouth zipped. Be the bigger person"

Step into the real world and remember that there is life outside of your internet friends. Trust me when I say that there are BIGGER and MORE IMPORTANT things going on outside of the internet and outside of blog drama.

Do you know how many times I've been screwed over in blog land? A bunch.
I've been accused of stalking, I've been trash talked on twitter/instagram and a blog from trying to do something nice.
I've been the winner of giveaways and never gotten the prize(s).
I've bought ad space that's been a waste of money.
I've won ad space that's been a waste of my time.
I've gotten mean comments.
It happens.

But do you see me calling them out?!

I halfway called ONE girl out and to this day I regret it. It had been talked about in emails but then in a random bit of anger, I listened to twitter and called her out. I still feel bad for that.... what she did was wrong (and I still never got that money back) but what I did was low and I am better than that.

You should be too. Be better than that, be the better person. Just sit back and shut up.
Sure watch the drama unfold if you have the time but as for me, I don't. I have three kids, a husband, two dogs, two cats, a mess with the IRS and all kinds of in real life drama that I don't need or have the time to get caught up in the drama of bloggers that I know/follow.

Trust me, I get how hard it is to not defend yourself but by doing so, it only makes it worse. It only adds fuel to the fire and gets more people involved. Do you honestly think that in a month this is going to matter? Is this really going to be a defining moment in your life?! I highly doubt it and if so, I'm sorry because that means your life is kind of sad if a blog feud becomes a highlight of it.

I was hesitant to even post this because so many people have already talked about this. But I'm trying to talk about ALL of it. Not just the past few days, ALL of it.  And I truly hope this will end up being an eye opener for someone. (probably not but eh, I tried)

Do you guys not realize that not only is this the internet and you have a real life, but what you post on the internet is seen by more people than just those involved!
That clothing company you wanted to work with--they probably saw it.
That blogger that thought about sponsoring you--they probably changed their mind with a quickness.
The blogger that is currently sponsoring you and holding her head in shame because it looks like she's associated with that mess. -She won't be back.

And then to post stuff and delete it a bit later?! Good job deleting in, but how about NOT posting it to begin with! Don't post stuff like that. Don't post screenshots, don't call people out, don't post a post knowing that you'll probably delete it later. You are grown women. I know that when you get a bunch of women together it's bound to happen but geez! It seems like that's ALL that's been going on lately.
Blissdom, twitterama, Blogging vs highschool--I've read a million of them. They all make great points but overall I just sat here like, "why? what's the point of posting that"
But here I am posting kind of the same thing.

I want to follow you because I like you. I like your blog. I like your blog voice but man, after this mess I just wanna step away from a good good amount of people in the blogging world and call it a day.

There's no real reason for this post, everything I just said has been said time and time again but this served as a nice reminder to myself that there is a bigger picture than just blogland and social media.
Take a break and go out with in real life friends, reconnect with someone, call your grandparents,  remember why you started blogging, why you love blogging...

Blog to blog, guys. In the end all this really won't make a difference. Get over it, move on, let go, bite your tongue, be the bigger person.

*this post brought to you by a high range of emotions thanks to shark week and family issues and just being sick and tired of grown women acting like children*